Fatwa No : 120612
Hesitant to marry a younger man who is still a student
Fatwa Date : Rabee' Al-Aakhir 25, 1430 / 21-4-2009
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, it should be mentioned that the difference of age between the husband and wife is not an impediment for marriage. Therefore, it is permissible for a woman to marry someone who is younger than her and vise-versa. Indeed, the Prophet married Khadeejah who was older than him, and he married ‘Aa’ishah who was much younger than him.
Therefore, it is permissible for the sister to wait for this young man if she wishes. However, we do not advise her to do so if the marriage will be delayed because of studies or because of him not being able to spend on her. She never knows, it might be that she will be advanced in age and he would not marry her, and the like; so such disadvantages may happen. Therefore, it is better for her to look for someone else to marry, and Allaah may compensate her with someone better in religion and moral conduct.
Finally, it should be noted that if the marriage is not predestined with this young man, then you should cut any relationship with him because it is not permissible for a woman to establish an affectionate relationship with a non-Mahram man. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 81356.
Allaah Knows best.
|A suitor with these bad qualities will not be a good husband|
|Do not hasten to marry this new Muslim man before verifying his religiosity|
|A religious woman is the optimum choice for marriage, even for a sinner|
|She is engaged to a Muslim man who has two children out of wedlock|