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New Muslim woman left her parents' house to practice Islam

Question

assalam wa alykuma reverted muslim sister got married with a muslim with the help of a muslim organisation. she left her parents because they were forcing her to study in a co-ed college and were not letting her wear hijab and her future was also insecure if she would have continued to stay with her family.she informed her parents after leaving the house. now that she is happy and free to follow islam there are some muslims who are asking her that why did she leave her parents house by making them sad !! she is asking that what should she reply to such people?

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, we ask Allaah to protect this sister and keep her fast on His religion and enable her to do every good deed. Indeed, she did well by not obeying her parents in disobeying Allaah because it is confirmed that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Obedience is required only in what is permissible." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84942.

Since this girl is married, then she should reside where her husband resides, and she is not obliged to reside in her parents’ house even if her parents were Muslims, let alone if they are not Muslims and she fears about her religion if she continues to reside with them. If they are unhappy about her without her being the cause, then she has not committed a crime for which she will be blamed. Moreover, migration in Islam was only legislated for the sake of preserving one’s religion. Indeed, such migration may require leaving one’s country, parents and family. So, should one abandon migration just because his parents may be sad? Allaah Says (what means): {Indeed, those whom the angels take [in death] while wronging themselves — [the angels] will say, “In what [condition] were you?” They will say, “We were oppressed in the land.” They [the angels] will say, “Was not the Earth of Allaah spacious [enough] for you to emigrate therein?” For those, their refuge is Hell — and what an evil destination!}[Quran 4:97] Therefore, those brothers have no right to object to this girl since her situation is as you mentioned. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 90891.

Furthermore, this girl should know that Allaah ordered her to be kind and dutiful to her parents even if they are non-Muslims; Allaah Says (what means): {But if they endeavour to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness.}[Quran 31:15] Therefore, she should try to keep ties with them to the best of her ability and with every means that is commonly considered as keeping ties with kinship, whether it is by phoning them, gifting them, writing to them and so forth.

For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 87019 and 82254.

Allaah Knows best.

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