Fatwa No : 89713
Fatwa Date : Rabee' Al-Awwal 1, 1426 / 10-4-2005
I am a well educated girl 26 years old. I have a good job and wearing Hijaab. I masturbate whenever I get the chance. I enjoy talking about sex and watch naked guys on the net. But never show myself it gets worse with me. But I never do anything in real I fear God and marriage is not an option now. You know we girls don't have the first step in this but I ask God to send me a good husband to stop what I do. Please don't tell me try to stop and pray more because I tried but I can't. I am very weak I only want to ask if am doing a very bad thing same as the girls who are doing it in real or I am better? Will God accept my prayers after what I do? Do I have to have a whole shower before praying if I come? I feel so guilty but I also have a great desire. Please tell me if talking with a guy on net about sex is "Janaaba"? Is it as bad as doing it in real? I am sorry I know you would think am really bad. But God knows how much I try not to do real bad things with men in real life. Thanks God is very strong at that no one can expect how weak I am inside. And how much I want it is masturbation totally forbidden in Islam? Knowing that it makes me feel a bit satisfied and never think to have a man with me for safe sex. Pray for me and all girls who are afraid of falling in sins for the sake of Allaah.
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Dear sister, may Allaah grant you a happy life and protect you from His Hellfire.
Chatting without any necessity with marriageable men is not allowed in general matters let alone the matter of sex and the like. Many forbidden relations start by sight, then a smile, then a word, then a promise, then dating and then a great sin is committed. It is also said that huge flames are caused by small sparks. Read our Fatwa: 82217.
Watching pornography badly affects your faith, your worship, destroys your mental peace and inflames your sexual desire which leads to more harmful and grave sins. See our Fataawa: 81439, 87380 and 85477.
We advise you to get rid of all the bad habits and supplicate Allaah to grant you a happy married life. May Allaah bless you and make you steadfast on His religion.
Allaah knows best.