Suspects dissolute wife touched by magic

10-4-2017 | IslamWeb

Question:

Assalaamu alaykum. I have been married for 16 years and have two sons aged seven and thirteen. I discovered that my wife was having an affair with a non-Muslim and that they also had physical relations. She also does not get along with my parents so we are not staying with them. Sometimes, certain unexplained things have happened in our house and she feels that my mother is performing magic on her and my kids. At times, she feels as if somebody is pressing her neck or burning her legs and so on. Sometimes somebody also talks to me through her, saying that he is there to protect my wife from my mother's magic. I asked him who he was and he said that he is there to protect my family. This had been happening for the past years. At times, I have found red blood and red powder and so on in unusul places in my home. That is why I started to believe that what was happening was true. Hence, I stayed away from my parents to avoid the effects of magic. I talk very little to them and avoid going there to meet them so that no effects of magic would reach our house. Slowly, over the years, the person who is talking to me through my wife started feeding me wrong ideas, like that my wife should wear short dresses and go to discos and so on to avoid issues related to magic. Out of fear, and like a fool, I believed all of it and let her do it. I do pray regularly. The person talking to me would also give religious advice and so on, so I believed it. My wife slowly started using all these excuses to go out at night and stay overnight and so on. Last year, I became suspicious and then found out about her affair. She says that she only had one affair and is still adamant that my mother is performing magic. I am completely broken by her cheating. She has apologized, but it does not look like it is coming from within. I asked her to change her lifestyle and become completely Islamic. She is irregular in her prayers and says that she will do things only to a certain limit. I want to divorce her, but I also want my kids. Please advise. It seems to me that she only apologized because she got caught. I live in India and work on ships for four to five months.

Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, you should know that it is a great sin that you or your wife accuse your mother of doing magic, unless you have evidence for this.

The basic principle is that one should not think evil of a Muslim and that the latter is free from guilt. This is even more emphatic in regard one's own mother. Allah says (what means): {O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin...} [Quran 49:12]

Not talking to your parents often may be considered as severing the ties with them, especially if they are harmed by this. Disobedience and undutifulness to parents, according to the scholars, is harming them by any kind of harm, be it small or big, as has been stated by As-Subki.

If what you mentioned is true, that someone is talking to you through your wife, then this may be because of magic or because your wife is possessed by a jinn. You should look for treatment by Ruqyah (healing through Quranic recitation and supplications), Athkaar (plural of Thikr [expressions of remembrance of Allah]) and supplications while avoiding going to magicians and soothsayers. Please refer to fatwas 88660 and 82918about the lawful Ruqyah.

It was very naive of you to let the devil take advantage of this situation and make you respond to him in these reprehensible things which he ordered you to do; because of that, you allowed your wife to go out unveiled and let her – apparently – go out at night and stay overnight outside the home. So what did you expect from your wife as a result of all this?

In any case, if it is proven that she is in a relationship with that man or that she was with him even once, then you should be very strict with her and oblige her to completely cut her relationship with him. You must also oblige her to wear the hijaab and prevent her from all causes of corruption; Allah says (what means): {O you who have believed, protect yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allah in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.} [Quran 66:6]

As-Sa’di said about the interpretation of the above verse in his Tafseer (exegesis), “The husbands are their protectors by obliging them to abide by the commands of Allah and preserve His obligations, and to prevent them from corruption. The husbands must oblige them to do this.” Please refer to fatwa 191839.

Then if your wife repents and abides by the obedience of Allah and by the hijaab, then this is what is required; otherwise, there is no good for you to keep her as a wife and it is desirable to divorce her.

Ibn Qudamah, may Allah have mercy upon, said while clarifying the kinds of divorce, “The fourth, which is desirable, is when the wife is negligent about the rights of Allah, such as the prayer and the like, and he is unable to force her to do so, or when he has a wife who is not chaste...

Being negligent about the prayer is one of the means that lead to committing immorality (fornication or adultery); on the contrary, preserving the prayer is a means that protects a person from that; Allah says (what means): {Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing.} [Quran 29:45]

If we presume that divorce takes place, then your wife has no right to the custody of your children, because, according to the most preponderant opinion of the scholars, dissoluteness (Fisq) prevents the mother from taking custody. Please refer to fatwa 287512.

Therefore, the custody of the children is transferred to the females who are suitable after her to foster them according to the sequence order mentioned by the scholars, which we clarified in fatwa 84618.

Allah knows best.

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