His Son Does Not Perform Ablution Properly and When He Is Asked He Lies
Fatwa No: 450955

  • Fatwa Date:23-11-2021 - Rabee' Al-Aakhir 18, 1443
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Question

ASALAM U ALAIKUMMy 8yr old child cheats while performing wudhu then lies when gets caught many times he has been punished for this but continues to do this i dont know what to do if we stand and watcg him he will do everything perfectly but if no1 is watching he will miss ablution out snd throw water around the washroom to make it look convincing that he did wudhu then tell lies ontop of lies to cover up i woupd like to know what to do in an islamic sense as im am really clueless the rest Allah knows best asalam u alaikum.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

In his education, a child at this age needs some encouragement more than supervision and intimidation. For example, instead of ordering him to perform ablution and observing him, you can invite him to perform ablution with you and both of you perform together ablution, or that his mother invites him to perform ablution with her.

Moreover, encouragement by mentioning the virtues of ablution has an effect on upbringing, like telling him that those who perform ablution will have light on the Day of Resurrection in their faces and feet, and these are signs by which the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) recognizes them that they are from his nation.

The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “My people will come on the Day of Resurrection with bright faces, hands, and feet from the traces of ablution.” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]

Also, taking him to the mosque and letting him perform ablution with the worshippers in the mosque ablution area may make him feel the importance of ablution and that he participates with the adults in this act of worship.

He should also be reminded about the importance of telling the truth and the seriousness of telling lies, with what is suitable to his age of beneficial stories and other means that will nurture the feeling of responsibility in him.

Finally, you should remember to supplicate for him for righteousness and guidance, for supplication is one of the greatest doors to reforming children.

Allah knows best.

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