His mother asks him to accompany his female cousins to and from public places

23-3-2010 | IslamWeb

Question:

AsalamoAlikum Kindly Help me on the following situation. quite some times my female cousins come to our home. Majority of females in my famliy and among my cousins do not do proper Hijab and neither do they take care of mixing. My mother asks me to take her, my sisters , and cousins to shopping malls or some other public place. Is it allowed for me to take them in this situation given that they do not do Hijab. some of them consider Hijab not necessary and consider headcovering and normal clothes okay. Kindly guide me to the correct application in this situation. Would it be ok for me to take my family and cousins given that they abide by shariat rules and I do not interact with my cousins and just drive? Jazak Allah

Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

 

If a young man goes out with some of his female relatives who do not wear Hijab, then this includes some prohibitions, among which are the following:

- Getting in the car with them involves seeing their beauty and this is forbidden according to the agreement of the scholars  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  them unless the woman is a wife or a female Mahram, as Allaah Says (what means): {Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All-Aware of what they do.}[Quran 24:30]

- Going out with them is like confirming this evil they are doing, and this is not permissible as it is an obligation to forbid evil as the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Whoever amongst you sees an evil, he should change it with his hand (i.e. physically), if he is unable, then he should change it with his tongue (i.e. verbally) and if he is unable, then he should change it with his heart (by detesting it in his heart) and that is the weakest level of faith. [Muslim] Thus, the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) considered changing evil in one’s heart as the weakest level of faith, and denying something with one’s heart could only be achieved by deserting the people who commit sins and staying away from their company, and it is more confirmed to stay away from them while they are committing the sin.

- If people see a righteous young man with such girls, they would not think good of him, and the scholars  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  them clarified that it is an obligation to stay away from the places of suspicion.

Dear brother, all these disadvantages may happen even when obliging those girls to abide by the Sharee’ah rulings when dealing with you. Therefore, we advise you to avoid going out with them, and this is a very good way of making them feel that what they do is wrong. However, you should be lenient with your mother and apologize to her in a soft and gentle manner if she asks you to go out with those girls.

Finally, you should know that the right of Allaah is greater than the right of anyone else. For more benefit on the conditions of Hijab, please refer to Fataawa 83702 and 81554.

Allaah Knows best.

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