She wants divorce from her abusive psychopathic husband

20-10-2013 | IslamWeb

Question:

Selam aleküm, my story is a bit complicated. I'm just escaped from my violent, psychopathic man from Turkey. I am a German woman who has lived in Alanya for almost 9 years and since October 2005, I am married with this Muslim man. At first everything was quite normal, but he had hit me in the time already 2 times and so much so that there the police had already come. However, I have forgiven him again and believed that it is better. In part, it went well. In December 2006 he came to prison and came out in October 2012. From this time he gets more and more made and made my life to hell and he also takes a lot of drugs and alcohol, he got more and more psychological problems. He has repeatedly dragged me into the Mountains of Alanya, so in total solitude, and wanted to kill me. 2 weeks ago he hit me, hurt with a knife and knocked out two teeth. All this is considered aggravated assault. I was just scared for my life and last Sunday I just run away back to my family in germany, only with my stuff I had on his body. Luckily I had my passport, because he has partly taken from me. Now to my question: How can I get a divorce from this man. We are just married in the muslim way, not from goverment. In his eyes we are still married, I dont wont to make a mistake. He speaks repeatedly of Namuz and I take it very seriously. He says, otherwise he must kill me. Can you speak via email, sms or otherwise the divorce also? He prays nearly never also not Friday ... He drinks alcohol every day, and take many other drugs. He has cheated me with other women. In addition, he also has a “real“ wife, which he married on paper. He can not provide for his wife, with whom he has two children, and for me. But I am working for them. He always talks as if he is acting on behalf of Allah. This man is very, very terrible and because of his drugs he is unfortunately mentally disturbed. Thank you for your help

Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

If the situation is as you mentioned that your husband is committing those grave major sins and ugly actions, then you should not hesitate in separating from him. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 131953.

Dear sister, we do not have the authority to issue divorce or invalidate your marriage; it is the Muslim judge who has this authority. Therefore, you should take your case to an Islamic court to issue divorce or invalidate marriage. If there are no Islamic courts, then you should take the case to the scholars in Islamic Centers in your country.

For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 94383 and 89039.

 

Allaah Knows best.

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