All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
What a wife spends on her husband and her children is one of the greatest acts of worship by which she gets closer to Allah and for which she gets a great reward. Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri narrated that Zaynab, the wife of Ibn Mas'ood, said: “Ibn Mas'ood claimed that he and his children are more deserving that I spend my Zakat (obligatory charity) on them. The Prophet said: “Ibn Mas’ood has spoken the truth; your husband and your children are more deserving of your charity [Zakat] than anyone else.” [Al-Bukhaari]
The Prophet also said: “Giving charity to a poor person will only (be rewarded as) charity, while giving charity to a relative will be (rewarded as) charity and also (rewarded for) maintaining ties with kinship.” [At-Tirmithi, An-Nasaa'i and Ibn Maajah]
However, you are not obliged to spend on your husband and children, but doing so reflects nobility and kindness, and we hope that you will find the blessings of this in your worldly life and in your Hereafter. Your husband should appreciate your act of kindness to him, and spend on you and the children where never he gets some money. He should strive hard to find work because a husband is obliged to spend on his wife and children.
We advise you to be patient and have a mutual understanding with your husband in gentle and soft manner while continuing to supplicate Allah to facilitate for him a lawful job and lawful livelihood that will enable him to carry out this obligation.
Allah knows best.