All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
Our Messenger had never laid his hand on a woman who refused to marry him. Rather, he married this woman and divorced her before touching her (consummating the marriage); Allah, The Exalted, did not will for her (to receive) the honor of being among the Mothers of the Believers and the wives of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, who will also be his wives in Paradise. What proves that he married her is the Hadeeth cited by Al-Bukhaari on the authority of Sahl ibn Sa‘d and Abu Usayd, who said: “The Prophet married Umaymah bint Sharaaheel, and when she was brought to him, he stretched his hand towards her. It seemed that she disliked that, whereupon the Prophet ordered Abu Usayd to prepare her (for departure) and provide her with two white linen dresses.” Al-Haafith Ibn Hajar established in Fat-h Al-Baari that the term “Al-Jawniyyah” was a reference to Umaymah bint Sharaaheel, and he said: “It is authentically established that her name was Umaymah bint An-Nu‘maan ibn Sharaaheel, as narrated in the Hadeeth reported by Abu Usayd.” [End of Quote] It is authentically reported that he divorced her, and this essentially means that he married her, as divorce cannot occur except after marriage. Therefore, Imaam Al-Bukhaari, may Allaah have mercy upon him, cited the Hadeeth about her in his book Saheeh Al-Bukhaari under the title: “Chapter on the One Who Divorced His Wife, and Whether a Man Can Tell His Wife That She is Divorced to Her Face.” Ibn Hajar said in Fat-h Al-Baari: “Ibn ‘Abd Al-Barr said that they [scholars] unanimously agreed that the Prophet married Al-Jawniyyah, but they differed regarding the reason for the divorce. Qataadah said that when he [the Prophet ] entered upon her, he said to her: ‘Come (to me).’ She replied: ‘You come (to me)!’ Thereupon, he divorced her.” [End of Quote]
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