Female Addicted to Porn and Not Being Able to Marry

4-12-2025 | IslamWeb

Question:

I am a 21 year old muslim woman. When i was 14 years old, i got addicted to porn. I felt very guilty and tried to leave it, but i could not. Sometimes i do not watch it for 20 days and then i start again and touch myself to it. I want to come to the right path. I am scared and dont know what to do. I cannot get married yet because my elder siblings are not yet married but they will be soon. Also i cannot ask my family to get me married because im studying medicine and i cant get married yet.

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

You are required to sincerely repent to Allah the Almighty for this sin in a manner that fulfills all the conditions of repentance, which is to immediately stop committing the sin, to deeply regret having done it, and to make a firm and sincere determination never to return to it. Whenever you sin, repent sincerely, and do not despair of Allah’s mercy. Frequently supplicate to Allah that He protects your chastity and keeps you safe from these sins. Furthermore, you should keep the company of righteous women, constantly remember Allah the Almighty, and turn away from all the causes and paths that might expose you to committing this sin. Also, seek help by fasting frequently, and increase acts of obedience and good deeds that erase sins, because good deeds erase bad deeds. We ask Allah to grant us and you sincere repentance.

Lastly, the fact that your elder siblings are unmarried or that you are studying medicine should not prevent you from getting married to protect yourself. Explain your desire of marriage to your family if you are not afraid of any negative consequences.

Allah knows best.