How to Treat Non-Muslim Parents or Relatives

23-11-2002 | IslamWeb


I would like to know the Islamic ruling on how a Muslim woman and her children and husband should behave towards her non-Muslim parents. She lives in the Middle East and her parents and other kin live in North America. My question is: what is the correct way to treat them? Please elaborate on this, regarding visits, telephone calls, etc.


All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

Behaving kindly with parents and keeping ties with kinship are of a great status in Islam. In fact, many verses in the Quran emphasize obedience to parents except when they order one to desobey Allah.

Indeed, Allah has put the right of parents right after His Right.

Allah Says (what means):

• {And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. …} [Quran 17: 23]

• {Worship Allah and associate nothing with Him, and to parents do good, and to relatives, orphans, the needy, the near neighbor, …} [Quran 4: 36]

• {And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them…} [Quran 29: 8]

So, you should keep relations with your parents and be kind to them; your children must also do the same. This can be done through sending them presents, calling them often, … etc, until you think that you achieve this objective, which is being kind to your parents.

You should also call them to Islam in a gentle and wise manner. We hope Allah will guide them thanks to you and you will be rewarded for that.

We ask Allah to guide us all to the Right Path.

Allah Knows best.