Asking Allah's guidance best solution for all problems
29-11-2016 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am a Christian woman. I have always been religious ever since I was a little child. Last year, I met a Muslim man who is married with two kids and has other kids from his previous marriage. From the moment that I saw him for the first time, I fell completely in love and felt that he was the love of my life and everything I ever wanted. We got married through an Islamic marriage. At that time, the both of us did not know too much about how we should have this marriage in order for it to be valid. Given that we live in Romania (he had just arrived), we could not have a Wali (legal guardian), and we did not know that it was so important. After a half year, he divorced me because of my past. I had not been chaste. I lived in another society, and I made mistake for which I have repented. After divorcing, we had intimate relations during the 'Iddah (waiting period) without knowing that this made our marriage valid again. Some months ago, I had a relation with another man. And I am so ashamed and repent for everything that I have done. We really want to be together again, but he says that we cannot. I truly love him, and it is too difficult to me to convert to islam. I really need an answer. I really want to go back to him. I cannot live without him and want to be with him for the rest of my life. I need to find a solution. I regret absolutely everything that I have done in this life. I cannot marry the love of my life because of myself.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad, sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we would like to thank you for your trust in us and for directing your inquiry to us. Marrying that man, whom you love, and going back to him is a simple matter. Marriage is the best advice for those who are in love. The Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish woman provided that she is chaste, as we have explained in fatwa 82067. Also, there are certain conditions for a marriage contract to be valid in Islam, and among these conditions are the presence of the bride's Wali and two trustworthy witnesses, as has been underlined in fatwa 83629.
Instead of focusing on this, let your concern be for considering converting to Islam, and do not regard it as a difficult matter. We believe that you are an intelligent person, and we hope that your mind would lead you to the truth. Our advice to you is to turn to Allah and ask Him to guide you to the straight path. You should reflect on your current religion and think about the falsehood and contradictions in the many versions of the Bible which indicate that it is false and that repentance and conversion to the true religion are a must. Please refer to fatwas 8210, 10326 and 90449 about the falsehood in the current Christian beliefs.
Islam is the true religion that guarantees genuine happiness in this worldly life and the Hereafter. It is the last and concluding divine religion by means of which Allah, The Exalted, abrogated all the previous religions; He does not accept any other religion. Please refer to fatwas 88906, 88051 and 111063 about the evidence proving that Islam is the true religion.
We hope that if Allah guided you to Islam, this man would accept you as a wife and you would find happiness together, hopefully soon.
Allah knows best.