Assalamu alaikum.Our daughter has got a proposal from a religious family.He is also religious, educated and of good moral charector.But he has white patch of vitiligo on his hand.This may become generalized making whole body white in later life and can also affect their children by 30%.This is rare.Can we move ahead with the proposal or is there evidence in Islam for rejecting proposal on medical grounds like vitiligo or is it unIslamic if we do not go ahead with the proposal.What if our parents disagree?Kindly answer within a week Insha Allah as we have to proceed. Jazakhallah Khair
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
If you refer to vitiligo and not leprosy, then vitiligo is not among the diseases that are disgusting; it is for this reason that the scholars did not consider it among the diseases that give the spouse the choice to annul the marriage contract (in case he/she was not informed about it). Al-Mirdaawi said: “As regards vitiligo, it is a change in the color of the skin, ….and it is not disgusting, so the spouse is not given the choice to annul the marriage contract.”
Moreover, this disease does not harm one’s health as stated by the specialists. Therefore, if this young man is religious and has a good moral conduct, then one should accept him as a husband for this girl. Abu Hurayrah, may Allah be pleased with him, narrated that the Prophet said: “If a man whose religion and moral character are pleasing to you proposes to you, then let him marry.” [At-Tirmithi] It might be that Allah will bless this marriage and there will be much good in it.
Moreover, if that girl accepts him as a husband, then her guardian should not refuse him otherwise he is considered as preventing her from marriage without any sound reason. Al-Jalaal Al-Mahalli from the Shaafi’i School of jurisprudence, said: “Preventing the girl from marriage without a sound reason happens if an adult girl who has a sound mind wants to marry a suitable and competent man and her guardian refuses to marry her off.”
In case the guardian refuses to marry her off, then she should try to convince him in a soft and gentle manner. If he refuses to marry her off, then she has the right to take her matter to a Muslim judge (to marry her off).
The statement of Al-Mahalli continues as follows: “Preventing the woman from marriage without a sound reason should be confirmed to the Muslim judge so that he would marry her off, like if the guardian refuses to marry off the girl under his guardianship after he is ordered by the judge to do so.”
Allah Knows best.
Fatwa answered by: The Fatwa Center at Islamweb