Wife wants more children, husband doesn't

9-7-2002 | IslamWeb


What is the ruling where the husband has 2 kids and insists on using birth control so his wife will not become pregnant but she wants another child?


Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the World; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.

A husband has the right to delay his wife's pregnancy for a fixed period of time, if there is some interest in such an action.
So, his wife is highly advised to feel free to obey her husband in this concern. At the same time, the husband has to choose the easiest ways and the least harmful means. So, using condoms, for example, is more proper than uncovering the wife's Awrah (parts of body to be covered) or fixing loop. The husband has to consult experts about this issue.
But, if the husband wants to use a means to delay his wife's pregnancy for fear of large number of children and their responsibilities or for fear of poverty or so on, then he should not postpone his wife's pregnancy, since such thinking constitutes an evil thought about Allah, who warrants their sustenance. This also constitutes disagreement with the Prophetic Hadith: "Marry the woman who is affectionate and fertile, so I will be proud of your multitude in front of other nations" . Ahmad and Abu Dawood ; al-'Iraqi regarded it as sound.
Anyway, if the husband persists in his stand, we advise the wife to be patient and gentle with him; perhaps he may return to the right.
We ask Allah to make all affairs of Muslims good, Here and Hereafter.
Allah knows best.