A religious girl wants to marry him, but she is not beautiful
Fatwa No: 131653

Question

I'm 27y old my question is that one she is almost religions and five time prays and bears good moral character from religious family. she loves my very much bu I don't like her becoz but she is not beautiful but she is deendar. she is telling if i will not marry her she will never marry in the life, and she is crying for me, kindly advice me what should I do in this situation. plz....................

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.

 

If a man wants to marry he should consider the religion and good conduct of the woman. Indeed, a woman’s religion indicates the beauty of her soul. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 87465.

There is no doubt that if a man finds a woman who is both beautiful and has a good moral conduct, then this is better.

Therefore, we advise you to look at this girl; if she is relatively beautiful, then you should perform Istikhaarah prayer about her. If marrying her is good for you, then Allaah will facilitate it for you. For more benefit on how to perform Istikhaarah, please refer to Fatwa 81434.

Besides, it may appear at the first sight that a woman is not beautiful, and then it would become clear to her husband that she is somewhat beautiful. In some cases, the opposite might happen. Moreover, a husband may like his wife when he will see her good conduct.

Nonetheless, if you do not want to marry her and you fear that you would not like her and fear that separation might happen, then you should not marry her and Allaah may facilitate for her someone who would like her and he would marry her. Beauty is proportional: what someone sees as not beautiful may be seen by another as beautiful, and some people may want to marry her because of her good moral conduct.

It should be noted that this girl should not totally refrain from marrying if you do not marry her. Not marrying at all is not among the traits of Islam, because marriage may be an obligation in some cases and not marrying in this case renders the person sinful is he has no sound reason. For more benefit on the ruling on marriage, please refer to Fataawa 84026 and 81853.

Allaah Knows best.

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