Told his wife about his sin and they have troubles since then
Fatwa No: 92156

Question

i'm a muslim thanks god.i've been married in almost 2 years to an american who converted to Islam and thanks to Allah before we got married.my question is that last year i went back to my country by myself because we (my wife and I) have not make enough money. Overthere i took a trip by Bus to France and in the bus i commited a sin, i was so weak when i allowed a girl to sit next to me in that bus. the trip was so long, so we talked about a lot of things in our lives. in the middle of the trip the Satan has defeated me and i kissed her ( Only). i chated on my wife by kissing that girl and i felt like i should've die before i did that. so i repented to Allah and i'm still repenting and seeking forgivness from him. i read in some books that in order that your repentance be complete you should confess to your wife too. So when i came back here in the USA i did say it to my wife like a month ago and it was very difficult and it's still. So i really need advise my dear brother for my case. she accepted this fact and she still loves me, but somtimes she remember what i did and then we have a fight.another question do you recommand a family therapist, i personally refuse it but she wants it ?please I can't wait to hear your answers and make Doaa for me tooJasaka LLAHO KHAYRANN.B: if you could answer my in both languages Arabic and English would be really appreciated. Thank youyour muslim brother.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.

 

You have to avoid mixing, talking or sitting with marriageable women. It is absolutely forbidden to touch marriageable woman. What you did is a sin, so you have to repent sincerely from that.

It is not correct to confess mistakes to your wife, rather you have to conceal your sins from all people.

On the other hand, your wife is not allowed to remind you of the sin or speak evil of you for a sin you from which have repented. The details are discussed in our Fatwa: 85192.

May Allaah bless you and grant you happiness in your life and steadfastness on your religion.

Allaah Knows best.

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