She challenged her sister to invoke the curse of Allaah on the one of them who was wrong
Fatwa No: 247777

  • Fatwa Date:8-4-2014 - Jumaadaa Al-Aakhir 8, 1435
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Question

I am a sister with Asperger syndrome. This prevents me from living a normal life due to it's physical and psycological impact. My four years younger sister who is in her mid-twenties only cares about this dunya and gets angry when i advice her about taking care of her religioun. She does not pray, nor fast nor wear hijab and works until midnight when she goes home alone putting herself in danger for rape and other evil causing me to feel worried about her. My parents do not stop this evil. I have adviced her for years to no success. She has gotten tired of it and has now taken another approach towards me which is that she insults me and makes fun of me and my life in order to belittle what i am saying to her. Since i dont have a normal life and im almost always at home, dont have any friends etc she doesnt respect me nor what i am saying to her when all i have said is to stop doing the evil and i have done dawah to her using different approaches and ways. I pray for her every day and i feel very distressed with how she is living her life because I fear Allahs punishment on her. Today, my sister started arguing with me for no reason as she does every now and then, and then it escalated and she started calling me crazy accusing me of having a type of psycological illness that i dont have and accusing me of hiding behind the religion among other things that are not correct. I chose Islam and gave up a sinful life even though it gave me more options to deal with my aspergers so what she says is not true. Anyway, we argued and eventually i lost my temper due to this abuse and i said may Allah swt curse the one of us who is lying and i told her to say amen and i said several times that she should say amen so she said it and i regretted that i had said that. I was so fueled with anger because of the unjust accusations she keeps throwing my way and i wanted her to understand that it was wrong. What can i do about this curse that i invoked? I regret it so much.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

We ask Allaah, the Sustainer of mankind, to heal you, for He is the Healer. No healing is of any avail but His; healing that will leave behind no illness.

We advise you to pray that Allaah blesses you with recovery; indeed, Allaah, The Exalted, answers the supplications of the desperate and distressed; Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {Is He [not best] who responds to the desperate one when he calls upon Him and removes evil and makes you inheritors of the earth? Is there a deity with Allaah? Little do you remember!}[Quran 27:62]

You should not despair, for Allaah, The Exalted, is able to do all things and nothing is difficult for Him. You should also keep to patience given its great virtues both in this worldly life and the Hereafter as we clarified in Fatwa 83577.

You have done well by choosing and keeping to the path of righteousness. This is an indication of your sound judgment and rationality and a sign that you are not crazy as your sister described. We ask Allaah to bless you with steadfastness on the path of Truth until death and to admit you into Paradise.

If your sister is actually as you have described, then she is immensely neglectful of the rights of Allaah over her by being indifferent about her religion, abandoning prayer, fasting and Hijab. You have done the right thing by advising her and supplicating Allaah to guide her to the straight path. This is one of the greatest manifestations of your dutifulness and kindness towards her. If your advice and supplications are met with mockery and false accusations of hypocrisy, then this is an indication of her meanness and harshness. The best reaction to such an attitude is to be patient and to pardon and repel the offense with kindness. Such a reaction may very well yield good results. Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel [evil] by that [deed] which is better; and thereupon the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend.}[Quran 41:34]

Ibn Katheer  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him commented on the verse: “The verse means that there is a huge difference between evil deeds (offenses) and good ones (kindness). It means that one should repel people’s evil deeds and offenses by showing kindness towards them. ‘Umar  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him said, ‘You would never punish a person who disobeys Allaah in his relationship with you (i.e. by offending you) with something better than obeying Allaah in your relationship with him (i.e. by being kind to him).’ The part of the verse that says: {… the one whom between you and him is enmity [will become] as though he was a devoted friend} means that if you show kindness to the person who offends you, your kindness will lead him to love you and become an intimate friend and compassionate ally.” [End of quote]

For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 90528 and 179697.

As for Mubaahalah, it is permissible in Islam. It was defined by Ibn Al-Atheer in An-Nihaayah as follows, “It means mutual imprecation: both disputing parties gather and invoke the curse of Allaah upon the liars and wrongdoers among themselves.

Ibn Hajar commented on the Prophet’s invitation for the Christians of Najraan - a delegation consisting of 14 Christian priests - to Mubaahalah challenge, saying, “The permissibility of Mubaahalah challenge can be deduced from this incident in case the opponent insists on his (false) opinion after its falsehood had been proved with clear evidence beyond reasonable doubts. It was reported that Ibn ‘Abbaas and then Al-Awzaa‘i and a group of scholars called their opponents to Mubaahalah challenges …” [Fat-h Al-Baari]

However, it would have been better for you not to call for that; it seems that you were driven by extreme anger to do that. If your sister was lying and has accepted the Mubaahalah, then she should blame none but herself if afflictions befall her as a result!

Allaah Knows best.

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