Visions are not indicators for the result of Istikhaarah
Fatwa No: 253267

Question

My sister in law (my wife's sister) has a marriage offer from her Maternal Uncle's son (her cousin).Before, responding the boys family about any decision,my father in law who is my Maternal Uncle performed Istakhara (judging from omens) and he saw a dreadful dream;hence,they responded the boys family in negative.At this, the 80 years old ailing grandmother of the boy, who is the mother of girl's mother (also girls grandmother) is seriously annoyed with her daughter at their decision and warned her that she will no more maintain any relation with her daughter or her other family members unless they may change their decision.It is requested to provide the Fatwa by keeping in view of the following two factors: 1.Istakhara (which is an Islamic way, in which ALLAH's consent is acquired about any thing/act before its application/commencement) was done in which this proposed marriage was dreadfully forbidden. 2.On the other hand, there's an order of the aged and ailing mother, violating which may cause her serious annoyance to her daughter. 3.Another factor is the treatment and maintaining the relationships with the closes relatives (Sila Rehmi) which may be affected in case of a negative response to this proposal. You are requested to give advice please. JAZAKALLAH! Hammad Hasan

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and messenger.

No decisions should be based on this dream as it may not have any relation with Istikhaarah at all. The Istikhaarah has nothing to do with dreams and it is not a condition that the person who performs Istikhaarah sees a dream as we have already clarified in Fatwa 84934.

It should be known that the most important thing that could be an indication on the result of the Istikhaarah is whether or not the matter is achieved successfully.

Besides, the concerned person is the one who should perform Istikhaarah himself/herself and not someone else who would perform it on his/her behalf as we have already clarified in Fatwa 132810.

Accordingly, if this young man is religious and has a good moral character, then it is more appropriate to accept his proposal to that girl especially that they have ties of kinship between them. In fact, refusing such marriage has evil consequences such as the anger of the grandmother as you have mentioned in addition to severing the ties of kinship which may happen.

If there is something that necessitates refusing this suitor from the perspective of Sharee'ah, being dissolute and the like, then one should treat this matter gently and try to treat the negative effects which the refusal may entail.

Also, wise and righteous people should endeavor to reconcile the family members, seeking Allaah's help to facilitate this task. Allaah says regarding the virtue of reconciliation (what means): {No good is there in much of their private conversation, except for those who enjoin charity or that which is right or conciliation between people. And whoever does that seeking means to the approval of Allaah - then We are going to give him a great reward.}[Quran 4:114]

Moreover, Abu Ad-Dardaa’  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him reported that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Should I not tell you about what is better than the degrees of fasting, prayer and charity?" They said: "Yes." He  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "It is to reconcile between people, for spoiling kinship ties between them is the shaver (i.e. removes the person's religiosity)." [Ahmad and Abu Daawood]

Allaah Knows best.

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