He Cancelled Marriage 8 Days Before Ceremony Then Changed His Mind but Girl Refused
Fatwa No: 440002


I refused a marriage jus before 8 days of marriage cards were distributed atthe girl endAfter refusal her mother cursed me !I m really not able to gather myself after she started crying I changed my decision day after Bt she never heard me backAfter reapeated calls to her mother n brother they never answered back. My family returned back all the money to them which was spent in preparation.Could me please lemme know what should I do to save myself from her curse


All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

Marriage is one of the great matters that need a lot of deliberation so that the Muslim takes the reasons that would help him in completing the marriage in a good manner. Hence, he makes a good choice and undertakes other matters which prevent the annulment of the engagement or the occurrence of divorce, especially if the husband issues divorce before the completion of the wedding and before consummating the marriage with the wife. If this happens, then it causes a lot of embarrassment to the other party. It seems that this is what happened with what you did with this girl and her family, and this is what you should have taken into account beforehand.

In any case, there is no sin on you for what you did, and you are not unjust to this girl or her family. If you invalidated the engagement then that is permissible, but it is disliked without a need. The same thing applies to the fact if you had divorced her before the consummation of the marriage; divorce is permissible but disliked without a need. So, you are not unjust to the girl or to her family. Therefore, her mother has no right to curse you; we hope that her supplication will not be answered because it is an unjust supplication.

If this girl is of religious and moral character, and you can convince them to agree to complete the marriage, then it is a good thing.

Nonetheless, we draw your attention to perform Istikhaarah beforehand because it is one of the greatest reasons for being enabled to success and goodness, Allah willing.

For more benefit on how to perform Istikhaarah prayer and how to supplicate Allah, please refer to Fataawa 172573, 81434, and 82964.

Allah knows best.

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