Obeying Allaah is the only key to happiness in this world and the Hereafter
Fatwa No: 102241

  • Fatwa Date:4-12-2007 - Thul-Qi'dah 25, 1428
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Question

My sister told me that she knows a woman at her workplace; this woman has a relationship with a wealthy man as mistress for years, and she slept (zina) with this man many times, liked to drink wine, clubbing and dress sexy. This intimate emotion relationship has lead the wealthy man to give her money but he didn't want to marry her. This woman wanted to immigrate to Europe alone and she asked this wealthy man to give her money and flight ticket, and told him that she wants to find a job. Now she is in Europe and she is searching for rich European man to marry her so that she could get permanent resident. She appeared herself as muslima with hijab in hope she would attract a rich muslim Euro man, & will marry her & live in Europe as pleasure to be proud on that among her muslim friends. Questions: 1. What does Islamic fatwa says about being a mistress which lead the man to give money, financial supports and flight ticket to woman, and the woman use it to get marry (by travelling and searching for another rich man for marriage purpose)? Is it permissible to get marry in this way and what about barakah? 2. My sister has never involved in zina, in another words, my sister is a good muslima who always veil herself, while many of her friends enjoy their young with ma'siat. Once my sister wonder abt many hypocrit people like her friend at her work place who fulfill young life with hedeonism and pleasure; when age reach 30+, then they start looking for marriage in the 'dirty' way--my sister asked me, why this people who enjoy their sins get what they want in their life, they have beauty, wealth and good family, and they achieve their dream to live in their dream country or place, and marry handsome rich good muslim husband? While, why my sister & some ppl suffer in their life, live poor,lack of beauty? My sister ask, should she follow her friend's lifestyle to achive happiness? Is her lifestyle better or is her friend is better? Why life is unfair to obedient?

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, you should know that it is wrong for people to believe that happiness is only achieved through the worldly pleasures which a person possesses, like money, beauty and the like. Indeed, we see many people who are blessed with the above bounties and it was a punishment for them and a reason for their unhappiness. Allaah Says (what means): {So let not their wealth or their children impress you. Allaah only intends to punish them through them in worldly life and that their souls should depart [at death] while they are disbelievers.}[Quran 9:55]

The real happiness is to have faith and perform acts of obedience, Allaah Says (what means): {Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer— We will surely cause him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do.}[Quran 16:97]

For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 83577.

It is forbidden for a Muslim woman to have an affectionate relationship with a marriageable man, as this is the practice of the people of the pre-Islamic era of ignorance. Also, it not befitting for a believing woman, who seeks to please Allaah and enter Paradise, to think to tread the path of dissolute women, let alone doing what they do. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 90336 and 85254.

It should be noted that everything in this universe runs according to the Predestination of Allaah; it is He Who provides for people and it is He Who holds back provisions for some other people. He does so out of His absolute Knowledge and Wisdom. It is not life that gives or does not give.

Allaah gives worldly pleasures and bounties to those whom He loves and those whom He does not love, but He only gives faith to whom He loves.

Anyway, all the matter [whether a person is given from the bounties of Allaah or depressed from it] is a test from Allaah to His slaves, and then the recompense [reward in Paradise or punishment in Hellfire] will be on the Day of Judgment.

Therefore, we advise your sister to be patient and to earnestly supplicate Allaah to predestine what is good for her and bless her with a good husband.

She may seek the help of some righteous sisters in finding a pious husband for her.

Finally, it should be mentioned that it is an abominable act and a grave sin for some girls to have lovers, and what they get from them is evil in this world and a torment in the Hereafter.

Allaah Knows best.

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