She supplicates for her previous lover
Fatwa No: 120630

  • Fatwa Date:22-4-2009 - Rabee' Al-Aakhir 27, 1430
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Question

Assalam alaikkum,
I am here to clarify a personal doubt of mine. Is love allowed in Islam? I had fallen in love with one of my online friend who is also a muslim but couldn't proceed coz of family issues. We hadn't even met each other personally. We Both have understood the situation and had decided to quit chatting forever. I had then realised a muslim women is forbidden to speak to a non-mahram man without any necessity. May Almighty Allah Forgive us both for the ignorance.
Now Honestly I still love him. But All i Do is to Pray Nafeel namaz, Recite yaseen and ask dua for his happiness in this life and hereafter. I Have no sinful thoughts regarding him. I just want to know if i m still committing any sin??
Does Islam allows the rememberance of a non-mahram guy and praying for his happiness to Almighty Allah? I may sound confusing but sorry I m Just scared if by anychance i m doing something that would displease Almighty Allah.
Hope to Get a Justified reply. Jazak Allah.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, may Allaah reward you for fearing Allaah and we ask Him to bless you with guidance, piety, chastity and contentment.

Love before marriage is of two kinds:

1-    The love which a person did not intend or cause to happen deliberately, like a man who hears about a woman or looks at her accidentally and so his heart becomes attached to her, or that a woman hears about him or looks at him accidentally and her heart becomes attached to him; then if a person fears Allaah about this kind of love and keeps himself/herself chaste, then he/she will be rewarded.

2-    The love which takes place by one’s own choice, like the case of a man who carelessly looks again and again to women, speaks to them and corresponds with them, among other means of temptation. This kind of love is not permitted in Islam, and one is obliged to repent from it.

As regards supplicating for this man to be granted good in this world and the Hereafter, then in principle this is permissible, Allaah willing. However, it might be better if you supplicate for him among the general Muslims so that remembering this particular man will not lead to unpleasant consequences.

Nonetheless, if this man is religious and has a good moral conduct, and it becomes possible for you to marry him, then this is good as the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "The best solution for those who love each other is to marry." [Ibn Maajah] Also, it is permissible for you to seek the help of all permissible means in this regard. However, if marrying him is most unlikely, then you should endeavour to forget him and this is easy.

For more benefit on how to treat love sickness, please refer to Fatwa 84544.

Allaah Knows best.

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