Wants to marry but lacks the permissible means to communicate with girls
Fatwa No: 132000

Question

AslamoAlikum
I request the brothers to answer me on this and not refer to answers to similiar questions.
In the society I live, there is so much violation of Allah's hudood. Almost two years have passed since I adopted Allah's way
wholeheartedly and made Him my goal. My purpose in future is to get into Deen fully(do something for Islam). Currently I have
less than one and a half year in my graduation.
I feel kind of alone in my life when it comes to social relations with human beings since currently I have no one around me who thinks like me. But peace from Allah's is so sweet that I do not want to be like duniya oriented people.
I always pray to Allah and seek a future life parter of my kind. I tried through my
parents but just like other duniya oriented people early marriages seem awkard to
them. I just want to engage so that I can partly be relaxed in my mind.
I believe there are some righteous woman of my kind in this part of the world but
they are not quite nearby to where I live and are not related to me. I need to overcome
the communication barrier to achieve what I need Halal way. It really makes me uneasy when I feel about not achieving a right partner due to the fact that I was unable to build that halalcommunication channel. I know what I need is out there but society around me does not support me(including parents). I do not find any proper Islamic centre nearby to help me in this. I feel like corresponding to someone directly(e.g. facebook or somehow talk direcly) and explain my situation clearly and ask for future marriage but fear stepping out of Allah's bounds.
Any room for me in the shariat. Can I correspond* to someone (e.g. on Internet, letters) with right intention given the situation above?
*correspondence on this issue would naturally require several replies from both ends.
Jazak Allah for help

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

 

First of all, we ask Allaah to increase you in guidance and piety, protect you and protect your religion and bless you with a pious wife who will comfort your eyes.

There is no doubt that marriage achieves many religious objectives, like keeping oneself chaste, having children and so forth, so a Muslim should take the initiative to marry as soon as it is possible for him to do so.

Dear brother, we advise you to supplicate Allaah as much as possible to enable you to marry a pious woman, because supplication is one of the strongest weapons of a believer. Allaah Says (what means): {And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me-indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me.}[Quran 2:186]

As regards the means that you wish to take, which is to correspond directly with girls in order to find a suitable girl to marry, it is a dangerous means that some people took on the pretext of propagating Da’wah or looking for a wife, and then this means led them to dissoluteness and they very much regretted it.

Therefore, we advise you to take any other means, like seeking the help of some pious brothers or through their wives, and if you do not find any, then there are some matrimonial sites that are run by some pious people and that abide by strict conditions that prevent means of temptation, so you may make use of them.   

Allaah Knows best.

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