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Divulging friend's secret unintentionally

Question

Assalaamu alaykum. I have two questions. Some days ago, a Muslim friend of mine told me a secret about him, and I kept it secret from everybody. One day, however, I unintentionally told another friend about it! I forgot that it was a secret! I regretted it right there and then! Now I do not know how to repent! The friend who told me the secret does not know that I have disclosed it and still thinks that I have not said it to anybody! I do not know what to do. Secondly, I remembered an incident in which I teased a muslim. That muslim gave me a small physical punishment for having teased him. Now I have good relations with him and he forgot about that incident! Should I still ask forgiveness from him or is the punishment that he gave me enough? I do not know whether that punishment was equivalent to my teasing him.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

If someone entrusts a secret to someone else, the latter is forbidden from divulging this secret, as has been clarified by the scholars, but if you disclosed his secret unintentionally, then you are not sinful, as Allah says (what means): {Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred.} [Quran 2:286]

It is confirmed in Saheeh Muslim that Allah said in a Qudsi hadeeth, “I have indeed done so.

Moreover, Ibn ‘Abbaas  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said, “Allah has forgiven my nation the things they forget, do by mistake, or are forced to do.” [Ibn Maajah]

If someone did not commit a sin, it is not required of him to repent.

Since your friend does not know that you have divulged his secret, then do not inform him about it. If he later comes to know about it, then tell him what really happened and that you did not do it intentionally. This is with regard to your first question.

As regards your second question, it seems – and Allah knows best – that that person had the right to tease you in the same manner that you had teased him, according to Islamic conditions, pursuant to the saying of Allah (which means): {And if you punish [an enemy, O believers] punish with an equivalent of that with which you were harmed. But if you are patient - it is better for those who are patient.} [Quran 16:126]

However, he has no right to punish you physically. As regards whether the punishment was equivalent to your teasing of him, then we do not know about it but we hope that you are acquitted from sin by this punishment.

Allah knows best.

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