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Being stimulated by attractive people

Question

I find my question embarrassing, however a person should not be embarrassed when it comes to religion. Many times, I find myself sexually stimulated by attractive young men. When this happens, I deal with it as if I am dealing with attractive women and I try not to look at the person and turn my direction, looking away, and try to distract myself with something else. Is this kind of action correct? A friend of mine told me that in addition to looking away, I should try to perceive these young men as unattractive, or to change my feelings about beauty so that I see them as unattractive. What is your opinion about this statement?
Thank you for the help and effort that you do and may Allah reward you the best of rewards.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

It is compulsory for you to turn away your gaze from those persons who tempt you just as you are obliged not to look at women who are not Mahram to you. Allah Says (what means): {Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.} [Quran 24:30]. So, what you mentioned about trying your best to turn away your gaze from the tempting persons is a good and commendable act. As for your friend's advice, it might be a way of remedy but the real cure is in following the Sharee'ah’s rulings. You should adhere to what is lawful in the Sharee’ah and avoid what is prohibited. You should try to marry as soon as possible if you are unmarried. If you are not able to marry at this time you should fast as much as possible. The Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power". [Al-Bukhari]

Allah knows best.

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