Confused about a marriage proposal she recieved
Fatwa No: 88350

  • Fatwa Date:25-7-2004 - Jumaadaa Al-Aakhir 8, 1425
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Question

I have a question regarding the marriage. If there is a proposal of a man for a girl. He is very religious and has good manners. His family is also nice, but he is not very educated [he has passed high school] and his job is not permanent. The girl's mother is saying that if he loses his job what he will do as he does not have any skill or education so that he can get good job anywhere .Also, nowadays, its getting harder day-by-day in Qatar to survive and people are having visa problems. The girl and her mother are looking to have a man with at least enough education so that he can get a job if he loses his job here. Please, advice the sister what to decide regarding this proposal, as she is really becoming confused.

Answer

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.

Our advice to this woman is to accept this proposal as long as this man is religious and has good character and his family is nice and noble. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "When someone with whose religion and character you are satisfied asks for your daughter in marriage, accept his request; if you do not do so, there will be corruption and great evil on earth." (Al-Thirmidhi)

A religious man is a favour from Allah especially at the present time, and he cannot be valued by a price.

Allah says: "And marry those among you who are single (i.e. a man who has no wife and the woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the Sâlihûn (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves)." (An-Nur 24:32)

Wealth and livelihood are granted by Allah Alone, a human being has to struggle for that. Many graduates and wellqualified persons are jobless and cannot find a job to bear their expenses while many non-graduates are making money and have good jobs.

Having a Temporary job doesn’t mean that he will be fired from this job after marriage. The opposite may be true, that he will get it permanently, or he may get a job more suitable than the current one.

Our good ancestors used to believe that marriage is one of the good means that increase Rizq (livelihood). Aisha narrated that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "Marry women, since they bring Rizq." Al-Hakim reported it and said that this Hadith meets the conditions of Sahihain, Imam Al-Zahabi agreed with him.

When one has children, Allah facilitates the livelihood. Allah says: "Do not kill your children because of poverty - We provide sustenance for you and for them;" (Al-An'am 6:151)

Therefore, this woman should trust in Allah and should belive in Him. As He created us and grants us provisions. Allah provides the livelihood for every living being in this world. Allah says: "Seek your provision from Allâh (Alone), and worship Him (Alone), and be grateful to Him. To Him (Alone) you will be brought back." (Al-'Ankabut 29:17)

Allah knows best.

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