Fatwa No : 346162
Statement attributed to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab
Fatwa Date : Jumaadaa Al-Oula 19, 1438 / 15-2-2017
Assalaamu alaykum, dear Scholars. I have a question: there is a popular saying that is attributed to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab but for which I fail to find a source; it goes as follows: "A man should be like a child with his wife, but if she needs him, he should act like a man.” There is also another one which is attributed to ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab as well; it goes as follows: "A man should be like a child with his wife, happy and easy going, but when he sits with men, he should act as they do." My question regarding this is the following: what are the sources of these sayings, and in which books are the sayings found? Your assistance in the matter would be highly appreciated. May Allaah reward you.
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The statement in reference was narrated on the authority of ‘Umar, may Allah be pleased with him, by a group of scholars, one of whom was the Maaliki Hadeeth scholar Ad-Deenawari (d. 333 AH). He wrote, "It was narrated on the authority of Ibraaheem ibn Daazeel, from Abu Huthayfah, from Ath-Thawri, from his father, from Ibraaheem At-Tameemi, that ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allah be pleased with him, said, ‘A man should be like a child with his wife, but if he is needed, he acts like a man.’” [Al-Mujaalasah wa Jawaahir Al-‘Ilm]
This report was also attributed by Al-Muttaqi Al-Hindi in his book Kanz Al-‘Ummal to Ibn Abi Ad-Dunya. Other scholars cited it without a chain of narration, such as Al-Ghazaali in his book Ihya' ‘Uloom Ad-Deen and others.
Allah knows best.
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