Husbands Mistreat Their Wives and Prevent Them from Their Rights
Fatwa No: 386848

  • Fatwa Date:21-11-2018 - Rabee' Al-Awwal 13, 1440
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Question

Salam aleikum Sheikh I have a important question .In my husband family/relatives the males follow their culture , not islam which makes their wifes suffer s lot from opression , bad treatment etc for example beatings or men run out all night . Not spending time with wife , makes wife be a made to their mother in law etc. When i see Another sister in islam suffer from things that is haram in islam i cant be quiet and pretend that is okay. So i Always tell the women what is haram in the marriage that they go throu and i show fatwa , islamic lessons etc , hadith . I Always tell them that they should learn about islam to know diffrence between culture and islam bcz the bad treatment from husband is actually haram acording to islam. This of Course makes my husband family to hate me and see me as a fitnah for their wives bcz they want to continue to keep their wifes blind from islam so they can continue the opression on them . Now my husband tell me i cant anymore tell any woman that something their husband do is not from islam or haram . What is yr advice ? Should i just be a monafeqa and keep quiet and let the mesakin women get bad treatment. Now my brother in law does same with his wife whom he Only married about 2 months ago. She suffer a lot . He lives abroad and comes twice a year . He beats her Only bcz the told him she want spend time with him and she dont like he goes out all night . I never calls her while abroad. She stay with mother in law does all the cooking and cleaning and feels abandoned. She cries all the time and hardly eats. She isent allowed to have friend Only sit with mother in law. Once she Will be joining him abroad she isent allowed to learn the language in the country or go to school . She Will be locked inside Home having kid after kid. Like in prison. My other brother in law does same with his wife . Should i just keep quiet even thou their wives come to me crying asking advice and i speak from islam not from my nafs. Jazak allahu khair

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

If what you mentioned is true that those husbands mistreat their wives, then this is a great evil, an injustice and aggression that Allah does not like.

Indeed, Allah commanded us to treat the wives in a kind manner.

Allah Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.} [Quran 4:19]

As-Sa’di said about the interpretation of the above verse:

The husband must be kind to his wife; he must keep good company with her, avoid harming her, be generous to her, and treat her well.” [End of quote]

Anyone who knows that they indulge in this mistreatment should deny them from doing so.

Tameem ad-Daari  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “The religion is advice.” They said, “For whom?” He replied, “For Allah, His Book, His Messenger, and for the leaders of the Muslims and their masses.” [Muslim]

The best thing to do is to clarify to these sisters that what those husbands do is wrong and that this is contrary to the teachings of Islam. Your husband has no right to prevent you from doing this, and you are not obliged to obey him in this regard, because obeying him is only obligatory about marital matters and its consequences, as we have already clarified in Fataawa 89815 and 93972.

The approach that you should adopt with those sisters is an approach of teaching and guidance and not a method of inciting them to dissension and separation. A woman who is harmed by her husband has the right to ask for divorce because of the harm, but divorce may not be the best solution for her.

For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 362704, 370741, 330313, 330472, and 126474.

Allah knows best.

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