Wife Refuses to Return Home Due to Quarrels with Husband's Mother
Fatwa No: 390547

  • Fatwa Date:22-1-2019 - Jumaadaa Al-Oula 16, 1440
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Question

Married for around 10 months wife went ot her parent place even after completing 1month she not yet returned reason for going is that my mother is speaking a lot saying same thing again and again, need solution..Even i had gone to bring her back but she didnot came with me.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

First of all, we advise you to supplicate Allah earnestly to rectify the matter and reconcile between your mother and your wife.

Supplication is the best means by which a Muslim achieves what he aspires for. Allah is Most Generous and He ordered us to supplicate Him and promised to answer our supplication. Allah Says (what means): {And your Lord says, "Call upon Me; I will respond to you." Indeed, those who disdain My worship will enter Hell [rendered] contemptible.} [Quran 40:60]

If you made your wife live with your mother, then endeavor to search an independent accommodation for your wife where she will not face such difficulties. A separate accommodation is her right, and Islamically, she is not obliged to live with your mother or any of your relatives.

For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 84608.

You do not have to buy this accommodation for her; rather, it can be rented, borrowed, or otherwise, as stated by the jurists, such as Al-Shirbeeni  may  Allaah  have  mercy  upon  him from the Shaafi’i School of jurisprudence.

If your wife already lives in an independent accommodation, and yet she is harmed by your mother, then you should try to stop your mother from harming her, by advising her in a kind and gentle manner. By doing so, you may succeed in reconciling between them. You may also seek the help of some righteous people whom your mother and wife hold high in esteem as they may listen to them.

With regard to your wife refusing to come back to your house, if she has a sound excuse for this, then there is no harm on her in doing so.

If the excuse no longer exists, then she is obliged to obey you and go back home with you. If she refuses without an excuse, then she is rebellious and disobedient.

Allah knows best.

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