Suffers from Whispers about Divorce
Fatwa No: 375022

Question

Assalamualaikum, this question is regarding divorce. The other day me and my husband were talking about the different types of divorce and I told him about the conditional divorce where the wife can put a condition on the husband for divorce and if the husband saids yes divorce takes place. I gave him the example of Fatwa 302737. When mentioning the example I said that the wife told her husband that if he looks at another woman I will be divorced 3 times. Since I suffer from severe waswas, I am beginning to think what if I accidentally put the condition on my husband unknowingly since I used the pronoun I. And the time I was aware that I was using the pronoun I and if my husband said yes or okay in agreement to the fatwa will it apply to our relationship if I at the time God forbid had the intention of putting the condition on him without him being aware. Please answer my question as I suffer from extreme waswas and depression, and waswas has already ruined my life. I have a lot of self doubt so please provide answers in detail. Also I have asked my husband “leave me” with the intention of divorce many times because of depression. He has assured me he has never agreed to it but if he ever replied with okay does it count as divorce. Please provide me with answers as I have no mufti or sheikh in my town. I really love my husband and family and I want to make sure that I haven’t ruined it.

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

It is more suitable for someone like you who suffers from whispers, not to give in to the whispers and thoughts that the devil casts into your heart about divorce. It is best for you not to read about them or to ask the scholars about them. You should not torture yourself because of them as this is from the plots of Satan.

Answering any question from you will not help you, because our experience with the people who suffer from whispers is that our answers to them lead them to ask more questions.

Your questions will not end except by you putting an end to them and not giving in to these whispers. Rather, you must totally repel them and strive to do so, while seeking refuge in Allah from the accursed devil and by performing Ruqyah on yourself as this is the only remedy for them.

The certainty of the continuity of the marital bond is not overruled by doubt; so you should continue to have good marital relations with your husband.

For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 338494, 90425, 174821, and 164315.

Allah knows best.

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