Refused Many Proposals Then Got Married but Is Unhappy
Fatwa No: 449161

  • Fatwa Date:19-10-2021 - Rabee' Al-Awwal 13, 1443
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‎السلام عليكمI was born in the USA but moved to Egypt as a teenager I struggled I barely scraped along in school and had no friends My dad no longer wants to live in the US but his dream is for me to get married and build a life there I felt like I was not ready so Ive rejected a lot of proposals I felt pressured so I said yes to the most recent man he was in the States so I only saw a picture of him I did not like the way he looked and avoided looking at his picture while engaged I talked with him on the phone and mostly did not like our conversations he is not a bad person I feel he lacks personality we have nothing to talk about my interests and his do not align I talked to him for almost a year I went along with the wedding I’ve been married to him for about four days The first time I saw him we had nothing to talk about I find myself losing respect for him I told my dad I wanted a divorce He said I wouldnt ever get divorced especially in the first week hes worried about my future because girls who get divorced in the first week get their chastity questioned My entire life my dad talked about how my life would be better in the US I feel that is why I got married I was disappointing my parents so I did it to please them I prayed istikhara before but still feel I cannot do this Ive been praying and making dua but I feel my prayers havent been answered If there is a dua I can make because seeking out an Imam and getting Khula is not an option Thank you


All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

We did not exactly understand what you are asking about. Perhaps you are asking about a supplication that is specific to your situation; we are not aware of any supplication of this kind.

However, it is sufficient for you to ask Allah Almighty with the general supplications about facilitating matters and relieving distress. For example, you may supplicate with the supplication narrated by Anas  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Allahumma la sahla illa ma ja'altahu sahlan wa anta taj'alu al-ḥazna idha shi'ta sahla (O Allah, there is no ease other than what You make easy. If You please You ease sorrow).” [Ibn Hibban in his Saheeh]

You may also supplicate with the supplication of the distressed: “Allaahumma rahmataka arjo falaa takilni ilaa nafsi tarfata ‘ayn, wa aslih li sha'ni kullahu, laa ilaaha illaa ant ... (which means: O Allah, it is Your mercy that I hope for, so do not leave me in charge of my affairs even for the blink of an eye, and rectify for me all of my affairs. None has the right to be worshiped except You)." [Abu Dawood]

There are some etiquettes that must be fulfilled for the supplication to be most likely answered, among which is that the supplicant does not rush the answer.

Abu Hurayrah  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “The supplication of the slave (of Allah) is granted as long as he does not become impatient and says, ‘I supplicated and supplicated but my supplication was not answered.” [Muslim]

If you had performed Istikhaarah before marriage about the matter of that man’s marriage to you, and the marriage took place, then it is hoped that there will be good in your marriage to him.

Hence, our advice to you is that you be patient and not hasten to ask for separation, especially that you did not mention about that man a defect that repels you from him, or harm which you are harmed by so that your seeking Khul’ from him is justified.

The basic principle is that seeking Khul’ or divorce without any sound Islamic reason is not permissible.

For more benefit on supplications at times of distress and grief, please refer to Fatawa 343300, 418060, 88282, 13277213715, 265417 and 377509.

Allah Knows best.

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