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At the beginning my wife used to ignore me, not to listen to me and used to fight with me. Now she improved herself so I have tried to forgive her about what she did to me, I said ok, money is not a problem but I am not in love with her at all, and I can't stand this life any more, I feel like my heart is so tight. People say that, remember her family that supported you, some also say, you have got a baby, but no one cares about my personal feeling. My questions are: 1) Would it be legal to give her all of her right and divorce her given the previous mentioned reasons in addition to a very important other reason which is I can't sleep with her because I don't like her. And this is very dangerous especially in this non-Muslim country. 2) Is it possible to divorce without any reason, however, in my case should I feel guilty as she makes me feel if I leave her? 3) If I am allowed to do that, then what is the Sunnah in divorce, and how should I do it? 4) What if she says that I oppressed her, (however I will give her all of her rights as a Muslim woman) and she said, I will ask Allah so you fail in your carrier or you don't achieve as much of what you want to do, would Allah accept her prayers even if I have never oppressed her? At the end of my long message, I do thank you very much from the bottom of my heart, thank you all, may Allah please you all with all the good things here and in the Hereafter.
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Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. It is apparent from your question that your wife's behaviour is improving which is boding well for you. As long as she is developing her character and trying to please you, then we advise you to continue your life with her for the sake of herself and of your children as well. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {.… and the settlement is best;… }[4:128]. Every woman has positives and negatives. So, a husband should be thankful to Allah for the good qualities of his wife, and should be patient as regards her bad ones. The Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: A believing man should not hate, a believing woman (his wife); if he dislikes a quality of hers he may be pleased with another. If every husband divorces his wife for her shortcomings, no married life will continue on this Earth. Divorcing without any legal reason is dislikeable but not Haram. A Muslim is always advised not to divorce his wife since the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: Of all the lawful acts the most detestable to Allah is divorce. [ Abu Dawood ] We are very positive that your wife will rapidly improve herself and increase her good behaviours. We supplicate Allah to put love and affection between both of you. However, if you divorce her overlooking the matter of Makrooh you will not commit any sin. Her curse will not harm you since it is for no legal reason. Finally, we advise you not to divorce her. Allah knows best.
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