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Fatwa CenterHis wife mistreats him and wants to work in another state
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hello sir,
i am from India, am 37, a doctor, and i married 9 months ago by an arranged marriage by my parents( mother), father is no more. she had studied outside the state for 10 years. i came to know in my marriage life that my wife had some friend circle( non muslims.males) in her college, univ and working place, one of them(non muslim) wanted to marry her, but some situation occured that her family resisted but girl had mentioned to her friends that she cant leave him, cant live happy hereafter if she marry. During marriage months, she was in chat and mail and telephone converstaions ( not knowing about what issues) with many of them as well as this man, already married now. i tried to ask her many times about the people she is in touch with, she refused to answer everytime or take things to fight or tell me a lie. Now she has gone back to that place, for some professional reason, but has raised the issues with her parents, who unknowingly started blaming me. i tried to hide her things first but after their insistence i disclosed names but not all information. Now situation is that she is everytime using different things to make me feel that i made a mistake by telling her, also blaming me for minor family issues, religious things and saying she wont come back to home, and will stay back until i go and get her and if necessary will start her job there and live alone?. it is too far from here and my job doesnt give me even one day leave . Besides, she had used lot of foul, bad language to me as did her parents to me, even to islamic values. Please tell me what is the islamic rulings for this condition.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
If the situation is as you mentioned in the question that your wife talks with non-Mahram men, and that she looks down upon you and mistreats you, then she is disobedient and the Sharee’ah clarified the method of treating a disobedient wife, and we clarified this in Fatwa 85402.
Your wife is not permitted to travel without a Mahram and it is not permissible for her as well to insist that you go to her especially that you mentioned that your work condition does not allow you to have a vacation, so one of her Mahrams may travel to her so that he can accompany her during her travel.
We advise you to avoid allowing your wife to reside in that state where there are those men with whom she had relationships before marriage, as this is one of the greatest reasons of affliction. Rather, you should endeavor to make her reside where you reside. You should be firm with her and you should protect her from the motives of corruption.
Finally, the two following matters should be mentioned:
1- The parents should help their daughter to fulfill her obligations towards her husband.
2- It is absolutely impermissible for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, Allaah Says (what means): {And do not marry polytheistic men [to your women] until they believe.}[Quran 2:221]
Allaah Knows best.
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