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He hates his parents and describes them as hypocrites

Question

This ques. is about A Person (Aged 16) who is living his life alone, Yes, ALONE! he cooks food for himself (i.e. there Is NO one To prepare food for him). he has NO choice of clothes (i.e. he passes weeks wearing the same clothes) & he is being persecuted Regularly. There are Other Awful sufferings (which a human Can't even think of). NO! he is NOT an orphan. his so - called (parents - X) have betrayed him! when X showed first signs of hypocrisy / betrayal, he tried to sought help of his relatives. NOT Surprisingly, they also betrayed him. Thats It! From thereafter, his whole Life changed forever. he realized that Everyone Comes in this world Alone & goes of Alone. In Short, he realized The True meaning of life! he learned to cook food for himself & stood up on his own feet. he is A believer (he prays 5 times a day, fasts Every Friday! & helps the wayfarer Every time The Latter Is In Need - Remember, his Age Is Only 16!). he knows that his destination is heaven & of Those who betrayed him - (hell). he wants To know whether he should attend the funeral prayer of (X) OR, To be more precise, hypocrites bcz his hatred for them is beyond words. will Allah, On Day of judgment, Ask that person as to why didn't he Attend funeral prayer of (X), even if they were hypocrites, bcz he wants to be free from every fault & be A Pure / holy Soul

Answer

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

It is good that this man is religious and is keen on observing the prayer at its prescribed fixed time and on observing optional fasting. However, it should be noted that it is disliked to fast on Friday alone as clarified in Fatwa 87228. If he wants to fast on Friday, he should fast a day before or after it. Nonetheless, it is more appropriate for him to fast on Mondays and Thursdays and on the 13, 14 and 15 days of every lunar year as the excellence of fasting these days is mentioned in the Sunnah.

However, we find it very strange that this young man seems to be religious as indicated by his words, but he, at the same time, hates and says bad words about his parents. It is Allaah Who ordered us to pray and fast, and it is Him Who ordered us to be kind and dutiful to our parents even if they are non-Muslims and they try to turn their son into disbelief and misguidance; Allaah Says (what means): {But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness.}[Quran 31:15] So, this is the order of Allaah with non-Muslim parents, let alone if they are Muslims.

No matter how the parents mistreat their son, he is not permitted to mistreat them. If they do not fear Allaah in him, he should fear Allaah in them. So, describing his parents as hypocrites and betrayers is an act of cutting ties with them and this is a grave major sin and whoever does so is feared to be punished in this worldly life before the punishment that awaits him in the Hereafter. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 87019 and 82254.

Therefore, if this young man wants to avoid sin as he mentioned and wants to be pure, then he is obliged to fear Allaah and sincerely repent to him, and he should seek forgiveness from his parents about any matter of negligence towards them.

Furthermore, it is one of the most serious matters for one to declare another person to be a non-Muslim or a hypocrite without evidence, and if this is about the parents, then the sin is even greater; for more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 86428.

Besides, it is not permissible for this young man to abandon offering the funeral prayer for his parents if they die on the pretext that they are hypocrites. Moreover, how dare he say that he will enter Paradise and that his parents will enter Hellfire, does he know the unseen? Indeed, it is not permissible for a Muslim to testify that someone will enter Paradise or enter Hellfire except those to whom Allaah or His Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) attested to enter Paradise or Hell as we clarified in Fatwa 17769. Does this young man not fear that the matter will be otherwise? Jundub  may  Allaah  be  pleased  with  him narrated that a man said: “I swear by Allaah, Allaah will not forgive so and so.” Then, the Prophet  sallallaahu  `alayhi  wa  sallam ( may  Allaah exalt his mention ) said: "Allaah said:Who is this person who swears that I will not forgive so and so, indeed, I have forgiven so and so and I invalidated his (the other person’s) deeds.” [Muslim] Thus, this person spoke one word that spoilt his worldly life and his Hereafter.

In fact, it is strange that this young man fears and asks about not attending the funeral prayer of his parents, and he does not fear the severe punishment for cutting ties with them, being undutiful to them and hating them to this extent? Moreover, how does he know that they will die before him?

Therefore, we advise this young man to repent to Allaah and choose a way of life other than the one he is following now, and change his view towards his parents and his relatives.

Allaah Knows best.

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